Fireside Chat with Irene Fehr

Hello couples!

I had the pleasure to talk with Irene Fehr about differences in desire within the relationship, about staying present during sex and about connecting with the partner. It was a very interesting fireside chat; I now know about bodyfulness. Keep reading to know about it!

Irene Fehr is an advocate, adventurer, coach and healer in the realms of love, sex and relationships, Irene is on a mission to help people have more love into their sex life and more sex into their love life. She is a certified coach specialised in rekindling sexual desire and intimacy in long-term relationships. You can find more about her, here. You can also read articles of her on The Huffington Post.

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With Irene we talked about:

What does “stay present during sex” mean and how to do it?
What to do when you see differences on desire between you and your partner?
What can couples do to rekindle sexual desire and to reconnect with their partner?

 

What does “stay present during sex” mean?

Irene: It means being there with yourself and with your partner. Let me say what it’s not. It’s not >> in your head planning something else, like that dress you want to buy or what should you do for dinner. It’s not wishing that it was different. It’s not wishing that your partner was doing something else. So when you remove all of that, it’s really about focusing on what you are experiencing, the sensations, the pleasure, focusing in your partner, really feeling your partner, looking into their eyes, feeling that you are touching them. How does it feel, I’m feeling smoothness or electricity and being there fully in that moment. As if you were meditating, really being present.

Staying present is also asking for what you want and need so that you can experience your experience fully and pleasurably. When we hold in our desires and stop ourselves from asking for what we want, we go into our heads with mind chatter or inner complaining, disconnecting from the experience and our partners.

How can you stop that thought (like what should I do for dinner) from coming across your mind? How do you take your mind back?

Irene: It happens to everyone. There is two thing to focus on. One is focusing on your own sensations and being very very descriptive, really the way an artist would look at a flower. The flower is red, the shape is round, there is shadow here, there is texture here and using that for your own body and feeling like Okay, I feel electricity in my spine, I feel warmth in my legs. Being very descriptive, but not judgmental. Judgmental comes from your head and takes you out of the experience and the connection with your partner. But if you focus on sensations you stay in your body.
Number two is tuning into your own emotions (they’re connected to sensations). Could be, I feel heaviness in my chest and I feel sadness. It’s also important feeling that in your partner’s body, feeling the electricity in your partner when touching them. When you do that, when you direct your attention to your sensations and to your emotions, your head takes a break, stops spinning, because you redirect your attention to something else: your sensations and your emotions.

I call what I described: bodyfulness. So we have mindfulness about the head, but this is bodyfulness is about focusing on the body instead of the mind or even trying to stop the mind. When you focus on the body, the mind naturally relaxes.

And third, and most important, is asking for what you want. When your mind is chattering, tune in to what’s happening and what you want — and ask for it.

 

When you see differences on desire between you and your partner, what can you do?

Irene: Differences on desire are completely normal. It’s unusual to be on the same level in terms of desire because things are constantly changing in our lives. One person can have a good day and feel great, the other a bad one and feel turned off and crappy. Some people’s libido goes up with age; others’ goes down. And there are different drivers for libido for people: some are turned on from energetic connection, others from sensual touch, and others through play. Sometimes levels change throughout the relationship. For example, some women have more desire when they are pregnant and less desire after pregnancy and it could also be vice versa. Men and women get turned on differently and have different arousal patterns. It also shifts with menopause, age, so differences on desire are completely normal. It’s what we do with that. Differences in desire create conflict and most couples don’t like conflict, they don’t know how to work through conflict. We are not taught to work through conflict, specially sexual conflict and that creates situations like: “I want more, I don’t want more”. Too often, one partner starts dominating the other, demanding what they want, and the other partner withdrawing to protect themselves from the demands, creating distance and lack of emotional safety. We see conflict as bad, but conflict is very good, it’s an opportunity to learn about each other and come closer.
The way to rekindle sexual intimacy when there is that difference in desire and there is conflict is to get really vulnerable with each other about what’s really going on rather of pushing the other partner away or pulling away yourself. This is kind of where it gets complicated because it’s about learning how to grow through conflict, learning how to understand each other, and getting really real about what’s happening. As I said, learning how not to push or pull away, but to come closer. It’s very difficult, but there are tools and this is one of the things that I do: taking couples through this process of learning, how to cultivate that energy that comes out in conflict and convert it to sexual energy. There is a lot of passion in conflict, there is a lot of energy, we get worked up. So it’s important learning how to channel that to come closer and to convert that into sexual energy.

Can you say a couple of things that couples can do to rekindle sexual desire and to reconnect with your partner?

Irene: The first thing is to ask questions to your partner to learn more about them and their take on sex, desire, and what turns them on. Like for example, asking basic things that most couples don’t do when they meet, like for example:
“What does sex mean to you?”
“What is important to you about sex?”
“What scares you about sex?”
“What turns you on?”
“What were your sexual experiences in the past that shaped how you are sexually?”
Often there is a disconnection on desire and sex because there is no common understanding of what sex means. Sex for one person can mean something different for another person. For someone, for one partner, sex might mean feeling loved and for the other person sex is about play, excitement and fun. Without understanding these differences, they will not feel that they are meeting each other but they will not know why. They might think it is a sexual problem, but the real thing is that they don’t understand what for the other person sex means. We assume that what the other person things about sex is the same that what we think about it. Often times, it’s similar but people have different histories, different meanings. So it’s very important to ask questions.
Number two is, once you have done the first one – asking questions -, start experimenting, start playing with each other, through touch exercises or through the games that you have on the app (learning about each other through the dares). Start discovering each other through touch, through play, through romantic situations, and frame all of these as an experiment, like I am learning and discovering things about you. Because sex can be a heavy topic and when we think about it like that, we stop playing; but so much of sex is about letting go and playing. When you frame this as games or experiments, you can take it less seriously, it can be more fun.
The third one – is connected to the first question of what it is to stay present during sex and that is staying connected to what’s true for you. A lot of people in sex often do what feels good to their partner but it doesn’t feel good to them. And if it doesn’t feel good to you, you are not going to want more of it. So be very mindful to what feels right to you, it could be slowing it down, because your body needs it, it could be needing more connection, needing more foreplay and touch/stimulation. When we betray what is really true for us, we can’t really be there for our partner, because we are not happy, we are angry inside.
I work with couples where one partner is losing their desire and does not want more sex and when we look back at what happened. 100% of the time the partner lost the desire doing things that did not feel good. Like saying “yes” when you meant “no”, when they do things to please their partner but they didn’t feel pleasure. Desire starts winding down when you don’t do what feels good to you.

It can also happen that you say “yes” to your partner on something that you like, but this same thing in another moment might be a “no” for you. It’s a difficult conversation to have with your partner to explain this, right?

Irene: Those conversations are very difficult, there is a lot of fear of hurting your partner, fear of rejection and judgment. Those conversations are important, because when you don’t talk about that it becomes “the elephant in the room”. Which is this thing no one is talking about, but there is this huge elephant sitting around, and everyone is like “no, there is no elephant”. When it’s not talked about, it affects the relationship, the intimacy, the closeness. We disconnect in that avoidance and silence, and no longer know how to find our way back to each other. Intimacy is a huge part of sexual desire for another person, being real with someone, and showing yourself honestly and what’s true for you.

 

Thanks Irene!! That’s was a very interesting chat!

What are your thought about bodyfulness and differences on desire?
Leave them below!

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Marta P.
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Fireside Chat with Irene Fehr

Fireside Chat con Ubal Araque

(This post is written in Spanish)

Hola parejas,

Tenemos un nuevo Fireside Chat, con una persona súper apasionada de la sexualidad: Ubal Araque que tiene siempre un montón de proyectos en marcha y es muy activo en las redes sociales.

Ubal Araque es blogger en El Blog de Ubal y además es co-presentador del programa de TV online La Zona Erógena, en el que se tratan un montón de temas relacionados con la sexualidad. Además es co-organizador del Sex Bloggers meeting, lleva a cabo talleres de sexualidad y ofrece el servicio de “Personal Sex Shopper”.

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Con Ubal hablamos de:

¿Por qué se puede caer en la rutina de pareja?
¿Cuáles son las propuesta para romper las rutinas?
¿Las rutines son ciclos? ¿Salimos y entramos en rutinas constantemente?

 

¿Por qué se puede caer en la rutina de pareja?

Ubal: Hay muchas razones. No necesariamente las parejas que llevan muchos años son las que caen en rutinas, parejas que llevan poco tiempo también caen en la rutina. Suelen ser razones externas.

Caemos en la rutina por factores externos como el trabajo, la falta de dinero o el estrés; estas son causas que pueden llevan a una rutina sexual o incluso a no tener sexo. La razón de ello es porque “no apetece”. El deseo sexual va muy conectado al estado de ánimo, entonces realmente cuando tienes estos factores externos, así como también problemas de autoestima, se suele caer en rutina. Los niños son otro factor muy importante a la hora de caer en rutinas sexuales.

Es importante tener presente, que no hace falta que sean relaciones de 5 años, puede ser una relación corta y aún así se puede caer en la rutina. Hay parejas que pueden caer en una rutina sexual en el segundo mes.

¿Cuáles son tus propuesta para romper las rutinas?

Ubal: Yo propongo tres cosas.

  1. Sincerarte contigo y con tu pareja. A lo mejor uno de la pareja siente que está cayendo en una rutina sexual, pero la otra persona, no tiene esa sensación, para la otra persona está todo perfecto. Por eso, hay que hablarlo con la pareja, comentar lo que uno siente.
  2. Tratar de ubicar tiempos específicos. A lo mejor yo trabajo todo el día, mi pareja trabaja todo el día y no tenemos tiempo de coincidir. Al final se trata de romper la rutina de pareja, no solo la rutina sexual. Cuando rompemos la rutina de pareja, la parte más sexual de la relación también cambia. Buscar momentos como puede ser ver una peli juntos o ir a tomar un café. No hace falta esperarse a celebrar fechas e ir a cenar para San Valentín o cuando se cumplen meses, se pueden romper rutinas los días de cada día. Cualquier fecha que celebres con tu pareja, será un momento especial.
  3. Utilización de los equipos móviles. A veces la rutina sexual viene por la falta de contacto. La gente utiliza el móvil como medio de comunicación, bien pues una forma de reavivar la llama de la pasión es enviarse fotos sexys, fotos eróticas. Esto hace que la otra persona esté todo el día dándole vueltas a la cabeza. Esto es muy importante para salir de la rutina sexual. O utilizar apps como Desire, que te proponen retos para jugar con tu pareja para darle “vidilla”. Preparar el terreno de manera sexy. También los juguetes sexuales dentro de la relación de pareja, o un nuevo lubricante… Muchas parejas no han utilizado juguetes en pareja y esto puede ser una forma de salir de la rutina.

Ubal nos dice que “el tema de la rutina sexual siempre es uno el que se da cuenta, el otro no. Esto se debe a una falta de comunicación con la pareja. Si existe una buena comunicación es más difícil caer en la rutina. Es muy importante salir a un hotel una vez al mes, ni que sea en la misma ciudad, no hace falta ir a un hotel por San Valentín. También es interesante que uno de los dos se vaya y a la vuelta tras extrañar a la otra persona, salten chispas.”

¿Salimos y entramos en rutinas constáantemente?

Ubal: El tema de las rutinas es como cuando estás en un trabajo que no te gusta. O cambias de trabajo, o te cambian de posición o te adecuas a la posición. Tienes la opción de buscar otra pareja, de modificar la relación de pareja o de acostumbrarte a ella. Es importante potenciar la pareja desde la óptica individual. Nadie tiene un problema, como individuo uno tiene una necesidad y o la cambias, o buscas la manera de dinamizarla, la transformas o simplemente la aceptas.

¡Muchas gracias Ubal!

¿Has vivido alguna situación de rutina con tu pareja?
¡Deja tus comentarios debajo!

Cualquier cosa, puedes escribirnos a info@desire.games y conectar con nosotros en:

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Marta P.
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We are back with good news!

Hi couples!

I am happy to be back writing the blog. We have been busy thinking about the next changes we want to bring to you from Desire. So here are some things you can expect from us that will come soon:

  • More categories. Yes, we listen to you, so we’ll create more categories of dares. If you have ideas in mind about categories you’d like to see at Desire, email us! Write us at info@desire.games and we’ll try to make your wishes come true.
  • SexTech Talk. A few months ago, we organised the first SexTech Talk, a panel with sexologists, bloggers and sex toys manufacturers to discuss about technology and sexuality. It was great! It took place in Barcelona. After that, we have decided to organise a SexTech Tour of events in different cities. We’ll bring news soon. Stay tuned!
  • More Fireside Chats. We want to bring interesting topics on the table like that time we talked with Gigi Engle about living together or with sexologist Shula Melamed about creating possibilities.
  • Desire Community Webinar. It was time ago when we organised the first Desire Community Webinar where we invited authors to talk with us online about the Desire community, what they were missing and what the community means to them. We are thinking about organising the second one. What do you think?
  • More promotions! You have probably seen that we partner with different brands to bring you sexy products to play with your love one. You can find all the current promotions in the “Temporary promotions” tab at Desire app. We want to bring you new things, what would you like to see?

Write us at info@desire.games or comment this post to let us know your thoughts. We LOVE to listen what you have to say!

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Fireside Chat con Delia Pop

(This post is written in Spanish)

Hola parejas,

Tenemos un nuevo Fireside Chat, ¡muy interesante! Hablamos sobre el estrés y sus efectos en la relación de pareja con Delia Pop. Nos apetecía conocer más sobre qué es el estrés, así que buscando por Internet nos encontramos un artículo muy chulo y decidimos contactar con su escritora 🙂

Delia Pop es psicóloga y está especializada en terapia de pareja, sexualidad e infertilidad. Tiene más de ocho años de experiencia en consulta y su objetivo es ayudar a las personas a desatar sus nudos para que puedan alcanzar su máximo potencial en la vida. Puedes saber más al leer algunos de sus escritos en Código Nuevo.

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Con Delia hablamos de:

¿Qué es el estrés?
¿Cómo afecta el estrés a la relación de pareja?
¿El estrés se activa inconscientemente o conscientemente dentro nuestro?
¿Cómo se sale de la situación de estrés, individualmente o en pareja?

¿Qué es el estrés?

Delia: Las personas tenemos un mecanismo de supervivencia. Si pensamos cómo se vivía hace muchos años e imaginamos que estamos en el campo y de repente nos encontramos con un león, en ese momento no te puedes para a pensar qué hacer, si te pones a correr o si te escondes. En ese momento, se activa ese mecanismo de supervivencia. Otro ejemplo más actual sería, por ejemplo si te va a atropellar un coche tú tienes un instinto de moverte y lo haces sin llegar a saber por qué lo has hecho.

Cuando notamos que nuestra vida está en peligro se activa ese instinto de supervivencia y es importante, ya que en ese momento, lo que ocurre en nuestro cuerpo es que se enfoca todo a que podamos o bien luchar, o correr o quedarnos paralizados (por eso lo de quedarse en blanco ante un examen). Nos encontramos antes estas tres posibles respuestas.

Es un mecanismo que está muy bien y que nos ha permitido sobrevivir como especie. Lo que pasa es que hoy en día se está sobre utilizando y de alguna manera nosotros le estamos mandando mensajes al cerebro de peligros de vida o muerte ante situaciones casi cotidianas. Cuando hacemos eso, gastamos mucha energía. Es algo que está muy bien pero al sobre utilizarlo nos afecta negativamente; por ejemplo las mujeres pueden dejar de ovular, porque el cuerpo piensa ‘necesito sobrevivir’ así que en ese momento le da igual ovular.

Tenemos muchos estímulos amenazante, como las noticias de la TV, la presión y la necesidad de tener las cosas más controladas. Son muchos estímulos que activan lo que comentábamos. En nuestro cerebro se activa la amígdala – que es la que detecta el peligro – que es como si una luz roja constantemente estuviera encendida y desencadena todo ese proceso que al final acaba con una sensación de agotamiento, como con faltas de ganas de hacer nada. Tu razón te dice ‘pero si no has hecho nada, no has corrido una maratón’, pero tienes una sensación grande de cansancio y eso afecta a la relación de pareja, incluida la sexual.

¿Cómo afecta el estrés a la relación de pareja?

Delia: Afecta en todos los aspectos de la relación porque cuando estás en ese estado estás mucho menos en contacto con tus emociones, hay veces que la sensación de que te toquen es incluso desagradable. Si volvemos a la metáfora del león es sencillo de ver, si tienes la sensación de que te va a comer un león no te apetece que venga alguien y te acaricie. Hay muchas veces que pasa eso, se te acerca la pareja y tu estás como apartándote. Y esto no es porque no quieras a tu pareja, es porque en ese estado no estás abierto/a a esa posibilidad.

¿El estrés se activa inconscientemente o conscientemente dentro nuestro?

Delia: Los estímulos pueden ser externos y los recibimos, pero lo que activa esa situación de estrés es lo que tú te dices a ti mismo ante ese estímulo. Hay personas a las que llegar 5 minutos tarde a un sitio les supone un drama y entonces se activa este proceso como mucho más intenso, y hay otras personas a las que les da igual y entonces no se activa nada.

En realidad, esto está muy bien porque te da la posibilidad de elegir. Hay muchos estímulos, pero tú puedes entrenar tu mente y ante lo que tú te digas a cómo reaccionar a estos estímulos, va a hacer que se active o no ese mecanismo de supervivencia. Uno mismo puede elegir cómo quiere que le afecten las cosas, relativamente claro, porque no somos robots.

¿Cómo se sale de la situación de estrés, individualmente o en pareja?

Delia: Generalizar es complicado. En principio es bueno trabajar el estrés cada uno. En pareja lo que se puede hacer es, una vez uno mismo aprende a identificar cuando está estresado y sabe el porqué, es importante poder explicarle a la pareja esa situación.

Si nuestra pareja está muy estresada, tendemos a pensar que ‘ya no me quiere’, pero en realidad es la situación. Lo importante es la comunicación, explicar lo que a uno le está pasando y porqué químicamente no existe ese deseo en ese momento.

Para solucionar la situación de estrés, hay que atajarlo un poco por todos los lados. Por un lado hemos de dejar de plantearnos el mundo como un lugar lleno de alarmas e interpretarlo como un lugar agradable. A veces uno en la cabeza se monta una guerra y claro si estás en una guerra pues no te apetece tener relaciones sexuales. Lo que es necesario es que la persona deje de vivir como si estuviese en esa guerra y cree en su cabeza un sitio más agradable. Si pasas de una guerra a un sitio más agradable entonces si que te apetece mantener relaciones sexuales!

¡Muchas gracias Delia!

¿Has vivido una situación de estrés en pareja?
¡Deja tus comentarios debajo!

Cualquier cosa, puedes escribirnos a info@desire.games y conectar con nosotros en:

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New memories together: completed dares

Hi couples!

We love to create memories with the person we love. All types of memories, romantic and wild memories. We also love to look back at those memories, smile and think…‘aha..we did that…’ or depending what was it, something more like ‘OMG we did that, crazy’. So that’s why we created the timeline of completed dares! You can also add a picture to them.

So now you can scroll down the main screen, smile and think…‘aha..we did that…’ or ‘OMG we did that, crazy’.

We also added new features, like the ‘new’ community dares badge, so now you can see the new dares that the authors you follow in the community have. You can also decide what type of notifications you want to receive.

All these features are available already on the Android version, however we are still working on the iOS version, we’ll keep you posted. We hope you like these features! Let us know your thoughts below.
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FIRESIDE CHAT WITH SHULA MELAMED

(Este artículo está escrito en inglés)

Hello couples,

Here it comes the fireside chat we had with Shula Melamed, Relationships and Wellness Coach, about creating possibilities for more pleasure and intimacy in long term relationships. We love what she says: Relationships are play!

Shula Melamed has dedicated the better part of the last decade studying human behavior, coaching individuals, couples and facilitating groups. Her approach is informed by theories of psychology, sociology and anthropology. You can find more about her work here.

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With Shula we talked about:

How can we create possibilities for more pleasure and intimacy
in long term relationships?
What are the differences between new relationships and
long term relationships when it comes to creating possibilities?
Can we create the same situations that when we were in a new relationship?

How can we create possibilities for more pleasure and intimacy in long term relationships?

Shula: The first thing we have to do is to try to acknowledge these facts. Probably you have heard that ‘relationships are work’ but maybe we should also add that ‘relationships are play’. Some of the work you have to do is actually play. Of course, there is work you need to do around communication, around understanding each other’s goals, being sensitive to each other’s needs, but you also need to focus on playfulness and fun should be a priority. A lot of time people in long term relationships can take this for granted. We should ask ourselves ‘Am I having enough fun with my partner?’ ‘Am I doing everything I can to make the relationship exciting?’ ‘Am I being an interesting partner or am I sitting back?’ ‘Is there something I’d like to know about my partner, how about starting a conversation?’.

Some people do date nights – creating a special night to do something that just involves the two of them -, while some people is very reluctant to that idea, ‘why do I have to do that?’. Well, life is busy and our schedules get away from us, so we need to make time for fun as well. So first thing is acknowledging that it’s not going to happen by itself. Telling your partner that you love him/her in the middle of the day or bringing lunch to the office, are things that create great little experiences of appreciation and bonding to the relationship, it’s a small investment in your relationship and contributes to the overall health of your relationship.

What are the differences between new relationships and long term relationships when it comes to creating possibilities?

Shula: When you first start getting to know somebody in the begginning of the relationship, everything is new, there is so much to explore and discover, it’s your first time for a lot of things. The first time we go to a restaurant together, the first time we do my favourite activity together, the first time we share experiences for the first time, even with the small things. At the beginning of the relationship there is built in curiosity.

In long term relationships, you feel more comfortable emotionally, physically and psychologically, you have someone there to help support your goals and support your emotional growth. When you are in that situation, a certain amount of routine or predictability is comforting. Esther Perel talks about stability and the myth of spontaneity. When you are in a long term relationship you feel safe, it’s fun and it lets you do what you have to do, but to keep it passionate, to keep the relationship moving forward you need to know how to create new possibilities, spontaneity, new possibilities, new adventures, new experiences together.

When you are in a new relationship everything is new, everything is going to be exciting, but when you are in a long term relationship you don’t want everything to be exciting 24h a day because you need to get work done and life needs to progress however you need to find a way to build in novel and exciting activities together.

Can we create the same situations that when we were in a new relationship?

Shula: We don’t have to try to recreate the same situations that at the beginning of the relationship, it’s impossible, you can never go back, you can never be in the same position as you were at the beginning of the relationship, you know too much, you know a lot about the other. Also, you probably don’t like the same things that you used to like. But you can create the same feeling of having a new experience doing something different, and doing it walking side by side and knowing that you can be excited in the same way. But again the first thing, is to acknowledge that relationships take work and they also take play.

Thanks Shula!!

What are your thought about creating possibilities in long term relationships?
Leave them below!

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NEW eLOVES AND NEW BADGES

Hi couples!

We have been working on some new things to create a better Desire game for you. Here are some of these new things:

Now can see the past eLoves you have sent to your partner and the ones that your partner sent to you. If you shake your phone, you’ll see them under your #name and #yourpartner tag. You can also now see how many times you have sent each one. Some of you were asking about having an historic of the eLoves, well this is sort of an historic, plus you can re-send them!

We added new badges! Also, you have probably noticed (if you have the latest version of Android) that something new has pop-up below your avatar and your partner’s avatar. These are the badges that you and your partner have. If you click there, it will take you to the badges screen where you can see the ones you have, the ones your partner has and the ones that you still don’t have. The image of the badge is a clue for you to figure out how you can get it. Enjoy daring your partner while you get more badges!

We also added some changes, now when you ‘cancel’ a dare after being ‘accepted’, you don’t lose all points associated to it, you’ll lose 5 points. The same if your partner cancels a dare after being accepted, your partner will lose 5 points. We want you to get points, not to lose them 😉

We hope you like these features! Let us know your thoughts below.
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NEW eLOVES AND NEW BADGES